Today, specifically we're going to cover what to say on your first phone call.
As you probably know, a girl's opinion is largely based on the feelings she experiences during your first phone conversation.
Most guys fail in this area, because they simply "wing it" instead of forming a plan of action.
Whenever calling a girl there were a NUMBER of things you should do. For instance, you should do the following in EVERY phone conversation:
1) Have a "call back humor" joke:
Before you get a number, it's important to have some sort of connection or private joke. It could be a nickname you give her.
Or if you met her online, you could refer to something about her profile that you busted her on.
The point is using call back humor will immediately establish that connection you formed when you first got her number. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, just a something that shows points out the connection the two of you have.
2) Have a few questions about her
It's important to establish a connection with any conversation you have with a woman. Before calling her, jot down a few questions that you GENUINELY want to know about her.
Ask about her:
* Hobbies and life outside work
* Dreams and aspirations
* Favorite places to travel
* Music, movies, and books she likes
Now you'll find that many so-called "seduction gurus" tell you to ignore any rapport seeking questions before you know she's into you. And they'll also probably recommend never asking anything that makes you seem like you're trying to seek her approval.
But I honestly believe that it's necessary to ask questions like this. Honestly, it's important for creating attraction. However it's EQUALLY important to make her feel that sense of connection where you truly *get* her.
So, you ask questions about her. But you also want to challenge her at the same time. Ask her WHY she likes the things she does. Tease her a little. Create some banter between the two of you.
3) Have stories to tell
Stories should be the backbone of ANY attraction building conversation. Frankly one of the BIGGEST mistakes I've made in the past was having nothing to talk about.
Before picking up the phone, you should jot down a few notes about some of the interesting things you've done during the week. Also if you have a story from your past that you know women love, NOW is the time you should tell it!
Any story you tell should put you in the best possible light. It should subtly demonstrate that you're a fun, high status guy who has a lot going on in your life. And if this isn't the truth, then it's time to get out there and do something!
4) Have a *date* idea
NEVER, EVER pick up the phone without having a few fun activities planned. It can be something you're doing with your friends. Or it can be something as simple as a trip to the mall.
The point is you want a SPECIFIC activity that you're doing during the week. And then as the conversation comes to the conclusion, you should invite her to come join you.
Typically this is known as a *date*. However I'm a firm believer in not using that word OR making it sound like a big deal. Let her know that you want to see her again. But you're also NOT structuring your entire life around seeing her. If she agrees, she agrees.
If she doesn't...Oh well. Next.
Bottom line is a phone call should be a fun experience. Use it to establish a connection, create attraction, and showcase your UNIQUE personality. Don't make the mistake of being boring , Instead be a exciting, engaging guy that she'll want to IMMEDIATELY see in person.
Ref: Here
No comments:
Post a Comment