What Do Girls Look for in a Guy?

• What Do Girls Look for in a Guy?

  A lot of guys (including myself) ask the question: What do girls look for in a guy? I really find it attractive when a girl knows what she wants in a guy, but I want to put a little twist on it.
  
  

  

  
  First: What are 5 (or fewer) things you girls look for in a guy?
  Second: What are 5 (or more) things you want a guy to look for in you?
  

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  i look for in guys:

  1. general attractiveness (this means that I'M attracted to them, not necessarily everyone else)

  
  2. sense of humor
  3. caring/considerate/sweet/thoughtful-ness
  4. intelligence
  5. we share similar opinions and ideas, but we can also debate and agree to disagree
  
  i don't know what i want guys to look for in me. i hope most of the same things

  • 9/1/2009 1:08 AM 
  • rough_souls@xanga (message) 
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  Similar to this...
  1. sense of humor
  2. respectful, loyal and caring to family & friends
  3. attractiveness/physique
  4. intelligence
  5. similar interests/hobbies
  I'm not sure about the other way around though... I haven't given much thought to it, ever. Maybe I should ask my SO. Haahahha. :)

  • 9/1/2009 1:13 AM 
  • EverlastingSimplicity@xanga  (message) 
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  I'm attracted to guys with these qualities:

  1. Sense of humor- way important. I love laughing, so why not have someone I like make me ? 

  2. Great personality- I don't like dull boring people. 

  3. Attractive to ME- good physique is just a plus 

  4. Considerate, sweet, caring, etc.

  5. Similar interests- music and whatnot

  As for the other way around, I'm not too sure. I hope they would just see my sense of humor, outgoing personality, caring, etc. Basically the same as what I look for in a guy.

  • 9/1/2009 1:20 AM 
  • SamiiSaysHaii@xanga (message) 
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  1. Same faith (Christianity.)
  2. Loving me as who I am.
  3. Commitment.
  4. Height (I'm tall for a Chinese girl.)

  My second list is the same as above, but add the below:
  5. Respect.

  • 9/1/2009 1:17 AM 
  • FreeeVerse@xanga   (message) 
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  1.) height

  
  

  2.) age

  
  

  3.) face

  
  

  4.) fashion sense

  
  

  5.) personality--> niceness, sweetness, smartness, caringness

  
  

  yeah so shallow. but those are the FIRST five things i look for.

  
  

  and i have many more. hahah.

  • 9/1/2009 1:20 AM 
  • yvonneeeeeeeeeee@xanga (message) 
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  oh i wanted to add one more thing (which would make six) but also important is someone who has goals, aspirations and dreams. and i'd like to second 'respect.'

  • 9/1/2009 1:21 AM 
  • rough_souls@xanga (message) 
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  1. Money.

  /end comments

  lol just kidding.

  • 9/1/2009 1:27 AM 
  • tastytimmm@xanga  (message) 
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  In a man, I look for...
  
  1. Attractiveness (he needs to have a nice smile, good hygiene, and intelligence is a must etc)
  2. Good personality (this includes sense of humor, friendliness, sense of adventure, etc obviously)
  3. Family oriented (but open to not having children of his own, since I haven't decided if I want to be a mom)
  4. Commitment (loving me always, faithfulness, honesty, etc)
  5. Great sex life (Hey! I'm a woman with needs, I'm not saying he has to be well endowed, but he needs to know how to use what he's got and also be creative)

  
  

  Luckily for me I've found a man with all of these requirements (save that he's a little shy, but that's okay) and more (he was blessed in the uhh wedding tackle region haha)

  • 9/1/2009 1:33 AM 
  • TheScaleDiaries@xanga (message) 
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  A penis. I like my dudes to have those. 

  • 9/1/2009 1:36 AM 
  • live_for_love@xanga  (message) 
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  1. a genuinely good guy. for me, the nice guy will always win over the hot guy who's an asshole. always. i love guys who are considerate, good to their friends and family, and just generally good in nature. girls want to feel respected and loved.

  
  

  2. a sense of humor. i am always laughing... i couldn't be with someone who never smiled or took everything so seriously.

  
  

  3. good taste in music. music is such a big part of my life... if he has the same taste as me, then he has half my heart already. haha

  
  

  4. attractive to me. i don't have a standard of beauty, and i often love someone's "flaws". i could be attracted to someone when no one else is, and that's fine with me. the only thing i really have a consistency in liking is height. i'm on the taller side (5'9) so i usually like guys who are taller than me. i have, however, dated guys my height and a little shorter, there are more important things than looks to me.

  
  

  5. intelligence. i'm not talking about going to an ivy-league school, but if you can't carry on a conversation for more than 5 min or if you ~TyPe LiKe DiS~, then i'm not interested. i want a guy who can challenge me to think about things, a guy who i can talk with about an issue in the news with or something important to me. a good listener is always nice too!

  
  
  

  i'd say that those are things i'd want a guy to look for in me, as well. maybe along with goal-oriented

  • 9/1/2009 1:43 AM 
  • k_lewey@xanga (message) 
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  1. good looking
  2. good in bed
  3. intelligent
  4. sense of humor
  5. loyalty

  and I'd want him to look for the same in me but in the order opposite, from last to first.

  • 9/1/2009 1:48 AM 
  •  cdedodgethis@xanga (message) 
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  teachable, funny, christian, handsome, and good sense.

  for myself: sarcasm, intelligence, cuteness, teachable, christian. 

  by "teachable" it's a bit like being able to compromise, being able to learn stuff instead of being a stubborn mule (ex: xenophilius lovegood), eager to learn. 

  and obviously, (s)he'd have to be asian, because i'm a bloody racist. :D 

  • 9/1/2009 2:01 AM 
  • snapeful@xanga (message) 
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  This is all i hear "I like blah blah blah PENIS"

  • 9/1/2009 1:55 AM 
  • Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga (message) 
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  There's always something they like and always something they hate.

  
  Personally, I think they look for the impossible. Like fictional characters. Then again, SuperGirl, CatWoman, and the like wouldn't be so bad. >_<

  • 9/1/2009 1:59 AM 
  • naguyin@xanga  (message) 
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  In a guy, I would want:

  1. sense of humor
  2. attractive face/body/voice
  3. sensitivity to female quirks
  4. good conversationalist
  5. classy

  In me, I'm guessing a guy would want:

  1. attractive face/body/hair
  2. nice personality [aka not a bitch]
  3. sense of humor
  4. a girl who knows when to shut her trap
  5. good in bed?

  • 9/1/2009 2:11 AM 
  • Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga   (message) 
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  @tastytimmm@xanga - I agree. We all saw that post about brad pitt. 99% of the comments were for the money. 

  • 9/1/2009 2:14 AM 
  • SupperMick@xanga  (message) 
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  I look for his...
  1. Sense of humor
  2. Ability to communicate with others and especially me
  3. Motivated/Has his sh*t together
  4. Takes care of himself, emotionally and physically (yes, I want him to look at least well-kempt and decently dressed... but I'm not looking for a super model)
  5. Dependability/Trustworthiness

  Hmm... it's kinda hard looking at it from the other end. But I suppose I'll give it a shot.

  I want him to look at my...
  1. Overall personality
  2. Ability to be independent (that I could handle my own)
  3. Hobbies/Interests
  4. Physical appearance (I don't want him to be shallow, I just want him to think that I look good! If that makes sense...)
  5. Dependability/Trustworthiness

  ...? That was kinda hard... haha

  • 9/1/2009 2:16 AM 
  • katberg@xanga (message) 
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  1. confident, but humble
  2. age
  3. loyal/ trustworthy
  4. education
  5. Christian

  • 9/1/2009 2:25 AM 
  • DysfunctionalG@xanga (message) 
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  what i look for in a guy:

  1. intelligence
  2. confidence
  3. stability
  4. compassion
  5. humbleness

  what i want a guy to look for in me:

  1. intelligence
  2. humor
  3. ambition
  4. compassion
  5. awesomeness

  • 9/1/2009 2:43 AM 
  • OngishLyOngLee@xanga (message) 
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  A guy asking a girl what she looks for in a guy is one of the biggest time wasters in the world. Actually, its worse than that...as it is often detrimental to the guy. Guys ask this question in high school....then spend the next 10 years trying to be "that guy" and wondering why they never get any girls.

  If a guy wants to know what girls "look for" in a guy.....don't ask a girl what she's looking for....ask look at the guy that girls tend to be attracted to and there's your answer.

  @tastytimmm@xanga - OBJECTIVELY.... money probably is the #1 thing that girls go for. Money and good looks (its pretty close between the two). Sure you can't be a good looking and rich douche bag.... but as long as you are a relatively decent guy.... its surprising what money can do for a guy's "personality", "charm", "sense of humor", etc etc.

  • 9/1/2009 3:09 AM 
  • wizexel22@xanga (message) 
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  1.  it's so cliche but looks is always going to be #1, he doesn't have to be good looking but we have to be attracted to each other.

  2.  hold a conversation with me and my friends3.  financially stable4.  be confident5.  be honest with me, no bullshit

  • 9/1/2009 3:29 AM 
  • mewithoutu77@xanga (message) 
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  1. confidence. it can make okay guys look 10x hotter, and a lack of it can make okay guys look 10x less attractive.

  2. easy to get along with/ things in common (for me, that would have special emphasis on political and religious preferences, which would be liberal and atheist/agnostic)

  3. he doesn't have to be funny, but he has to smile and laugh a lot.

  4. loyalty/ reliability. lol i know those two are different, but i couldn't choose.

  5. intelligence, he doesn't have to have a PhD, but he at least has to know his grammar.

  • 9/1/2009 3:45 AM 
  • sophia@xanga  (message) 
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  CHICKS GOTTA DIG GUYS WITH BIG DICKS

  *cough* me

  • 9/1/2009 4:18 AM 
  • t_zie@xanga (message) 
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  What I look for in a guy (apart from physical attractiveness, although I won't go for or get with anyone I don't find physically attractive):
  1. Sense of humour.
  2. Stability- someone who knows what they want and has both feet on the ground.
  3. Intelligence and common sense.
  4. Someone who I can understand and be understood by in return. You have to be open, patient and willing enough to learn about who I am and how I work. And then put up with it. It shows perseverance and courage because I'm definitely no ordinary girl and I don't expect anyone else to be ordinary either, especially when I'm trying to learn about them.
  5. Loyalty/trustworthiness/reliability.

  Picky picky me. It's all or nothing.

  As for guys... if you're what I want, I hope you can find what you're looking for in me. If not, well, we'll both get by.

  • 9/1/2009 4:20 AM 
  • Vacantwhispers@xanga (message) 
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  I look for:
  1. Height
  2. Sense of humor
  3. Style [I tend to look at shoes and jeans...]
  4. Intelligence
  5. A passion for something in life

  I would assume guys would look for all of the physical aspects of a girl! Hopefully, they'd look for the same things I look for in a guy.

  • 9/1/2009 5:17 AM 
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